Are You Stuck In A Rut?
An interesting observation made by psychologists is that most of us are stuck at the same level of happiness and satisfaction in our lives regardless of what’s going on around us or the circumstances we find ourselves in.
And if you think about it, you’ll see it’s true. I bet every woman has at one time or another secretly convinced herself that little outfit will change her life and make her sexier, more desirable and happier – and it does, for all of us… for about an hour after we first put it on. And the same is true for men and their cars. (I know I am over generalising but hang in there – I’m making a good point I promise).
And, counter-intuitively, the same is true for the money we earn, the houses we live in, the company we keep – pretty much everything. Once a surprisingly low minimum level of these things is reached, adding more to the pile doesn’t change how we feel beyond a short-lived “bump” when it’s all new and fresh to us.
So, what does this have to do with weight loss and reaching those all-important goals you have?
Well, none of this happens overnight. Your weight takes time to come off, and you reach your goals as the result of time and effort applied in the right direction. And after the original euphoria and excitement has worn off and real-life reasserts itself, it’s easy to fall back into that “don’t care, can’t be bothered, what’s the point?” attitude.
And it’s understanding this that makes our approach at NuBeginnings so very different and typically more effective than simply “dieting” alone.
Because we understand how your mindset drives everything else – and that’s why we put so much emphasis on it during your stay on our Residential Programme, as well as in the NuBeginnings Inner Circle home-study programme.
But even without these, there’s a lot you can do to reset your “happiness thermostat” to a higher level and keep the motivation going.
One of the simplest ways is to keep your Journal bang up-to-date, making sure you record everything, but especially your results as the weight comes off and you get closer to your goals.
This serves to remind you of why you’re doing what you’re doing and provides concrete evidence it’s actually working (because even at 2lb a week, if you have lot to lose, progress can be painfully slow and difficult to discern).
Another trick you can play sounds very simple but takes some practice. And that is… to decide to be happy now.
The world around you is as it is. And it’s this way every day. The only difference between good days and bad days is your attitude to them – the environment around you is oblivious to you (and if truth be told, so are most of the people around you, too!).
You have a choice: be happy, or don’t be happy. It sounds silly, I know. But if you tell yourself “I’ll be happy when I…”, and then add some arbitrary criterion, like “… reach my goal weight”, or “…get that new car” or “…find a partner” I can practically guarantee you’re never going to be happy, simply because you’re relying on external circumstances or other people to furnish that happiness for you.
So what do you do when you’re feeling low or you wake up and something’s weighing on your mind and threatening to spoil your day.
- Find somewhere to stand where you’ve got some space (you’re going to need it).
- Think about what’s bugging you and let the negative feelings wash over you. Really let them become strong… as strong and as miserable as they can be.
- When they’re so bad you just want to find a hole to crawl into…
- Crouch down, touch your fingers on the floor, and then leap up in the air as high as you can, waving your arms about and kicking your legs, pulling as silly a face as you can and making as silly “yodelling” sound.
- That’s it.
Yes, people will think you’ve flipped, but I promise not only will you feel instantly better for the rest of the day, but the problem – whatever it is – won’t ever seem quite so important ever again.
Don’t knock it until you’ve done it. Go on….no time like the present!